There’s something really special about taking time to reconnect with your partner before the beautiful chaos of newborn life begins. As exciting and meaningful as bringing home a baby is, it also changes everything. Life gets louder, sleep disappears, routines shift, and suddenly your entire world revolves around this tiny human.
When I was pregnant with Logan, Rich and I took a babymoon to Hawaii, and it felt like absolute bliss.
This babymoon, though, felt a little different.
Being away from your child for an extended period of time is hard. Really hard.
But Rich and I both agreed that stepping away for a reset was important for us too, not just as a couple, but also so we could return home feeling more present and grounded as parents.
We decided on the Dominican Republic and booked an all inclusive stay at Secrets Cap Cana Resort & Spa.
And honestly, it was a dream.
We stayed seven nights in an oceanfront swim out room, and from the moment we arrived, we completely fell in love with the resort.
It also happened to fall during my birthday week, so we planned a few excursions while we were there and really tried to soak in every moment.
Emotionally, this trip carried a strange mix of feelings for me.
It was easier to tell people we were celebrating my birthday than to explain we were technically on a babymoon. There’s a weird sense of guilt and vulnerability that comes with saying “babymoon” when you don’t have the big pregnant belly that people expect to see.
At least for me, that’s how it felt.
Saying “babymoon” also often meant explaining our entire surrogacy story, and sometimes I just didn’t have the emotional energy for that.
There were a few people we connected with during the trip who I did eventually open up to, but for the most part, Rich and I spent the week simply enjoying each other’s company.
The trip ended up being the perfect balance of relaxation, adventure, and a little bit of fun.
We had incredible dinners, endless sunshine, afternoon naps, excursions, and something we desperately needed:real downtime.
I would absolutely recommend this resort to anyone considering it, especially couples looking for a more peaceful atmosphere rather than a nonstop party scene. Most nights, people were winding down by around 10:30pm, which honestly felt perfect for us.
I think one of the things parents appreciate most on vacation is something so simple:sleeping without a baby monitor next to your head 😂
The seven days somehow went by both quickly and slowly at the same time.
And by the end of the trip, this was actually the first vacation where I truly felt content going home instead of wishing for “just a few more days.”
I had gone into the trip with zero expectations, and somehow it exceeded everything I needed from it emotionally.
This was the first truly relaxing trip Rich and I had taken alone, without Logan and without a group of friends, since becoming parents. And honestly, it was such a success for us.
We are incredibly lucky to have family we trust completely to care for Logan while we’re away, and knowing he was loved and safe allowed us to truly relax.
I know babymoons aren’t realistic or accessible for everyone, especially after your first child. Life, finances, schedules, and responsibilities can make it difficult.
But even if it’s just one night away together, I genuinely think there’s so much value in intentionally reconnecting before life shifts again.
And if anyone is interested in our full itinerary, excursions, restaurants, or travel tips, feel free to message me!
I’m a huge researcher when it comes to travel and love finding the best places, businesses, and experiences before booking anything. I also feel like I’ve finally mastered the art of planning all inclusive vacations 😂
And for anyone curious, I absolutely love the Secrets Resorts & Spas properties. They have locations in several different destinations, and this one truly did not disappoint ❤️
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